The D Spot

My nephew got married a few weeks ago and today he sent me the digital copies of his wedding pictures.
I am amazed at both how old he and his bride are (how are they 26 and 29 already??) and yet dually amazed by how young they are (They are only 27 and 29!!).
I was 24 when R and I got married and back then I thought I was grown up. I suppose my nephew and his bride think that they are grown up as well.
As did my mother and her friends, who were all married at 18 or so.
Now of course, 15+ years into marriage, I have learned a thing or two. One very important thing:
You don’t really ever have to grow up.
Sure, you play dress up in the clothes, and you playact when out and about with others who think they are grown up too. (Or, even worse, the ones who really did grow up. That’s a sad sight.)
You can hold your job, pay your bills, have your own children. (Responsible and grown up do not mean the same thing),
But inside, where it counts, you are only as old as you allow your yourself to be.
Go to work on time, and bring home your paycheck.
But remember to have fun with it.
Look at your partner and remember that you are not looking just at today, but at all the days you’ve known each other. You can see the past, when the crow’s feet werent so pronounced, and you can see the future, as you hold hands watching the sun set.
Remember to laugh. Smile lines are not wrinkles.
And when you find joy (and you must remember to look for it in the small places!) share that joy with others.
Tell someone you love them, with the openness of a child.
Hug someone with the unselfconsciousness of youth.
Hold hands, like your mother always told you to do.
Love someone with your heart wide open.
Do these things, kids, and you won’t ever have to grow up.